几年前曾看过一部叫《爱情呼叫转移》的电影。影片中，徐峥扮演的丈夫因为厌倦了每天都做炸酱面的贤惠妻子，没能熬过七年之痒，和对方分道扬镳。丈夫跟妻子离婚的理由很简单，不是她不好，而是她太好、太贤惠。有人说，这男人可真不识好歹，那么好的媳妇，他竟然不知道珍惜。到底是男人不懂珍惜，还是这背后有其他不为人知的秘密呢?

对男人太好，他不但不感激，反倒逃离。不仅在影视作品中，现实生活中这样的情况也时有发生。

不久前，有一姐妹哭着告诉我，结婚五年来，她在家庭中百分百地付出，对丈夫尽心尽力地照顾，对公公婆婆更是做到了爱屋及乌。但是，丈夫不但不领情，反而对她越来越冷漠。丈夫回到家里除了吃饭就是看新闻、玩游戏、上网，很少跟自己说话，更别提夫妻间的体贴和安慰了。

姐妹说，她每天忙得像个陀螺，累得像个孙子，想要抽空打理自己的时候，又该上床睡觉了。可是最后，她却换来了丈夫的一句，这日子没法过了，离婚吧!

切!女人还没说自己委屈至极呢，他还倒先说自己受不了了。现在都是什么世道。

我的姐妹一边啜泣一边低声质疑：难道对丈夫太好了，也有错吗?

当然有错，大大的有错。女人们可能不知道，对男人太好也会把男人“逼走”的哦。心理学家们认为，凡事都应该有个度，女人们如果过于贤惠，就会落入不懂得爱自己，只是一心为别人着想的极端。正是这些落入贤惠极端的女人，被心理学家们认为是患上了令男人们厌烦的“良家妇女综合征”。

男人为何不喜欢“乖乖女”呢?

一、嫁鸡随鸡，魅力降低

中国古代对女人在婚姻方面的教育一直是：嫁鸡随鸡，嫁狗随狗。到了现代社会，很多女性仍然在努力实践着这样的观点。与古代不同的是，现代女性大多受过高等教育，很多人会通过不断的努力，实现个人在事业上和人生中的追求。

有自己的追求，这其实是现代社会女性的一项独特魅力。但是过于贤惠的女性，为家全情付出，往往会忽视个人追求。比如那些结了婚就放弃工作，回家当全职太太的女性，最后被丈夫抛弃的案例比比皆是。失去了个人追求，女性的魅力会大打折扣。

如此一来，虽然女性全情为家庭付出，日子越久，男人就越会感到妻子的苍白和乏味，魅力不再。

二、保姆式的妻子没有吸引力

可以说，世界上最“毁人不倦”的事就是家务事。女性一旦成了围着锅台转、老公转和孩子转的“三围”女人，就很难不从高雅的女主人降低成忙忙碌碌的保姆了。为家事奔波劳累，女性很容易失去时尚前沿的女性能力和魅力。这样一来，“与时俱进”的丈夫回到家看到灰头土脸的妻子，就算有激情，也会慢慢退去。

做IT的小刘有一个非常爱他的妻子。每次逛商场，妻子都会给小刘买价格高的名牌服装，给自己买一些处理的低价服装。有一天，小刘的公司开年会，在众多女性中他发现自己的妻子既不时尚，也不漂亮，衣着打扮中还透着几分土气。从那天以后，小刘开始对妻子变得冷淡了许多，公司再组织带家属的活动时，小刘总是谎称妻子有事不能参加。

而小刘的妻子呢，丈夫对她越冷淡，她越是拼命对丈夫好。因为她希望通过自己的努力，让丈夫看到自己为这个家的付出。然而事实上，小刘的妻子越努力，离丈夫心中的那个美丽时尚的妻子就越远。于是，丈夫对妻子心生厌烦，也就是自然的了。

三、妈妈式的妻子没有女人味

“良家妇女综合征”之所以会让男性逃走另觅新欢，是因为女性在男性面前的宽容、善良、任劳任怨等表现，直接自己跟母亲的角色画上了等号。当女人身上的母性被无休止地放大，夫妻的关系就变成了母子关系。

而在母性大发的妻子面前，男人恰似一个骄横的儿子，最糟糕的是，在这个过程中男人的性欲也一并被扼杀了。而一旦男人遇到了能唤起自己性欲的女性，则会频频出轨，甚至跟妻子提出离婚。

如今的男人，已不会像从前那样要求你恪守三从四德、三纲五常了，你最好懂点擒拿术，在他皮痒的时候，给他松松骨。别担心，现代很多男人都或多或少有点受虐癖的倾向。你虐得他越别出心裁，可能他对你的爱就越持久热烈。

女人可以为家庭付出，但一定要有自己的原则和底线。就算是全职太太，也应该学会享受跟闺蜜逛街谈天说地的时间，再有空闲时要记得去做个头发，蒸个桑拿。一个有品位有理想的闺蜜会把你感染得越来越有品位，越来越漂亮。还有很重要的一点，家务事不是女人的专利，男人也有责任分担。哪怕只是让他擦擦桌子，刷刷碗。

这可不是自私，这是女性通晓了男人心理之后的战术。就算你已经患上了良家妇女综合征，从现在开始改变自己，还不算晚!

男人就是这么口是心非。在婚前他希望自己在婚后找到一个免费的暖床伙伴和老妈子，所以要求女人围着他转。等到他得到了，又觉得这样的女人不具有女性魅力，要求离婚。对于男人的要求，我们要懂得鉴别，别傻傻一头撞进去哦。爱别人的基础，是要懂得爱自己。

I saw a movie called “Love Call Transfer” a few years ago. In the film, the husband played by Xu Zheng is tired of the virtuous wife who makes noodles every day. He has not survived the itch for seven years and parted ways with the other party. The reason for the divorce of the husband and wife is simple, not that she is bad, but that she is too good and too virtuous. Some people say that this man really does not know the good or bad, so a good wife, he did not know to cherish. Is it true that men don’t know how to cherish, or are there other unknown secrets behind this?

Is too kind to men, not only did he not appreciate it, but fled instead. Not only in film and television works, but also in real life.

Not long ago, a sister cried and told me that after five years of marriage, she paid 100% in the family, took care of her husband as much as possible, and even loved the house and her husband. However, instead of empathizing, her husband became more and more indifferent to her. When the husband returns home, besides eating, he reads news, plays games, and surfs the Internet, and rarely talks to himself, let alone the thoughtfulness and comfort between the couple.

Sister said that she was busy like a spinning top and tired like a grandson every day. When she wanted to find time to take care of herself, she should go to bed again. But in the end, she got a sentence from her husband, this day can’t be over, divorce it!

Cut! The woman hasn’t said that she is wronged, he said that he can’t stand it. What is the world now.

My sister whispered and questioned in a low voice: Is it too good for her husband, is it wrong?

Is of course wrong, greatly wrong. Women may not know that being too good for a man will also force the man away. Psychologists believe that there should be a degree in everything. If women are too virtuous, they will fall into the extreme of not knowing how to love themselves, but focusing on others. It is these women who fall into the extremes of virtue and virtue that psychologists believe that they are suffering from “good family women’s syndrome” that bore men.

Why don’t men like “good girls”?

1. Marrying chickens with chickens reduces their charm

Marriage education for women in ancient China has always been: marrying chickens with chickens, and marrying dogs with dogs. In modern society, many women are still struggling to practice this view. Unlike ancient times, modern women are mostly highly educated, and many people will achieve their personal pursuits in career and life through continuous efforts.

Has his own pursuit, which is actually a unique charm of women in modern society. But women who are too virtuous and dedicated to the family often overlook their personal pursuits. For example, women who gave up their jobs when they got married and returned home to work as full-time wives were found everywhere by their husbands. If you lose your personal pursuit, the charm of women will be greatly reduced.

In this way, although women are dedicated to the family, the longer the days, the more men will feel the wife’s pale and boring, and the charm is no longer.

Second, the nanny-style wife is not attractive

It can be said that the most “ruinous” thing in the world is housework. Once a woman becomes a “sanwei” woman around the pan, her husband, and children, it is hard not to fall from an elegant hostess into a busy nanny. Working hard for housework, women can easily lose their female capabilities and charm at the forefront of fashion. In this way, the husband who “advance with the times” returns home to see the gray-faced wife, even with passion, will slowly retreat.

IT little Liu has a wife who loves him very much. Every time I go shopping, my wife will buy high-priced brand-name clothes for Xiao Liu, and buy some low-cost clothes for herself. One day, Xiao Liu’s company opened its annual meeting. Among many women, he found that his wife was neither fashionable nor beautiful, and she was a bit rustic in dress. From that day on, Xiao Liu began to be a lot colder towards his wife. When the company organized activities with family members, Xiao Liu always lied that his wife could not participate in something.

And for Xiao Liu ’s wife, the colder her husband is to her, the harder she is to treat her husband better. Because she hopes that through her own efforts, her husband can see her contribution to this family. In fact, the harder Xiao Liu’s wife works, the farther away from the beautiful and fashionable wife in her husband’s heart. Therefore, the husband is bored with his wife, which is natural.

Third, the mother-like wife is not feminine

The reason why “good family women’s syndrome” allows men to escape and find new love is because women’s tolerance, kindness, hard work and complaints in front of men directly draw the equal sign with their mother’s role. When the motherhood of a woman is magnified endlessly, the relationship between the husband and wife becomes a mother-child relationship.

And in front of his mother-in-law’s wife, the man is like a arrogant son. The worst part is that the man’s sexual desire was also strangled in the process. Once a man meets a woman who can arouse her sexual desire, she will be derailed frequently and even propose a divorce with his wife.

Today’s men will no longer require you to abide by the three obediences, the four virtues, the three outlines and the five constants as before. You’d better know some tricks, and let him loose his bones when itchy. Don’t worry, many men in modern times are more or less masochistic. The more ingenious you are, the more persistent and passionate his love for you may be.

Women can pay for the family, but they must have their own principles and bottom line. Even if you are a full-time wife, you should learn to enjoy the time of talking and talking with girlfriends. When you are free, remember to go for a hair and steam a sauna. A tasteful and ideal girlfriend will make you more and more tasteful and beautiful. It is also very important that household chores are not women ’s patents, and men are also responsible for sharing. Even just let him wipe the table and scrub the bowl.

This is not selfish, this is the tactics after women know the man’s psychology. Even if you already have a good family woman syndrome, it is not too late to change yourself from now on!

The man is so eloquent. Before marriage, he hoped to find a free bed-warming partner and old mother after marriage, so he asked the woman to turn around him. When he got it, he felt that such a woman was not feminine and asked for a divorce. As for the requirements of men, we must know how to identify and do n’t rush into it silly. The basis for loving others is to know how to love yourself.

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