这六个心理问题 已婚男士要思考
婚姻中除了夫妻两个人,还下有孩子,上有父母,一个合格的男人不能只是忙于事业,不能只是工作做得出色而疏于孩子的教育,所谓子不教父之过。而更有男人因为忙碌忘了
孝敬父母,他们可能有这样的心理,却总是不去付诸行动,等到“子欲孝亲不在”则悔之晚矣。是否认真反思过有多久没管孩子的教育问题?是否把孩子的教育问题全丢给妻子甚至丢给父母带就不管了?是否很久没去看望过父母甚至连一个电话都没打过?……
结婚后男人往往会抱着老婆到手了的心理,而一门心事去做他想做的事,却往往在无意中忽视了一些东西,夫妻不和的苗头也就不知不觉间开始冒出来。等到婚姻出现问题,才发现后再想要努力才收效甚微,甚至无可挽回只有后悔。
忙忙碌碌,男人少有时间静下心来反思,其实也不是没时间,只是大多数的男人不愿意甚至是不屑于反思婚姻情感中的一些问题,似乎那样做挺婆婆妈妈,这完全是一种心理误区。不反思则无法长进,不反思则问题会越积越多。以下提出6个婚姻里男人最该反省的问题,希望婚姻中的男人都能抽出时间想一想这些问题。
是否做到了让妻儿不为衣食所忧?
很多男人似乎也在工作,似乎每天也挺忙,但是否想过:你的忙碌是否事倍功半?连妻儿的衣食问题都要过于节省算计着来?男人虽然能力各有差异,如果能力实在有限,当然不必苛求,但多半能力太差的男人不多,更多的是有能力却没有付出努力,没有上进心,沉溺于游戏或酒色赌桌上
是否冷落了妻子的情调精神需求?
物质只是一个基本的要求,作为已婚男人,除了为妻儿提供相对无忧的物质条件,是否过于投入工作事业或应酬而冷落了妻子的精神需求?比如陪妻子逛逛街,陪妻子散散步,是否记得妻子的生日或夫妻结婚纪念日?对妻子的一些情调浪漫需求是否会粗暴地破坏打击?
是否太久没和妻子聊天说话沟通?
没有沟通就没有和谐的夫妻关系,就必然没有温馨幸福的婚姻。女人多半愿意聊天说话,男人多半倾向于沉默,是否有太久没和妻子好好聊过天说过话?是否太久没有就生活中的大小事进行过沟通?甚至只是一言堂,粗暴地只管一个人说了算?是否只顾着应酬每天很晚回家让妻子经常独守?
是否无意中自己的言行伤了妻子?
男人多半比较粗心,经常会自以为是,而在无意中说了一些不该说的话,做了一些不该做的事,自己并没有意识到,而妻子出于爱也并没有指出,但伤害其实已经存在,这就更需要男人能定期经常主动反思反省。是否无意中自己的一句无心的话或一个无心的举动伤了妻子的心?是否自己的大男子主义言行委屈了妻子?
是否疏于教育孩子以及孝敬父母?
婚姻中除了夫妻两个人,还下有孩子,上有父母,一个合格的男人不能只是忙于事业,不能只是工作做得出色而疏于孩子的教育,所谓子不教父之过。而更有男人因为忙碌忘了孝敬父母,他们可能有心,却总是不去付诸行动,等到“子欲孝亲不在”则悔之晚矣。是否认真反思过有多久没管孩子的教育问题?是否把孩子的教育问题全丢给妻子甚至丢给父母带就不管了?是否很久没去看望过父母甚至连一个电话都没打过?
是否对得起妻子的爱忠诚于婚姻?
婚姻是两个人的婚姻,日子是过给自己的,不是过给人看的,所以对得起自己的心才是最重要的。表面上和和睦睦,甚至从没有吵架,别人看来是模范夫妻,但事实上很多的模范夫妻只是一种做给人看的假象。
忠于婚姻,不是靠隐瞒和欺骗,不是说妻子不知道自己在外面的暧昧甚至出轨的行动,就似乎能心安理得。男人在外面,是否跟风攀比拈花惹草?是否跟网络女子暧昧玩知己游戏?是否真的对得起妻子的信任忠于婚姻?
In addition to two couples in marriage, they also have children and parents. A qualified man can’t just be busy with his career, and can’t just do good work and neglect the education of his children. And even more men forget about it
Respect your parents. They may have such a mentality, but they don’t always take action. It is too late to regret when “the child wants to be filial and filial.” Have you seriously reflected on how long you haven’t managed your child’s education? Does it matter whether the children’s education is left to their wives or even to their parents? Has it been a long time since I visited my parents or even made a phone call? …
After marriage, men tend to hold their wives in their hands, and they often do something they want to do, but they often inadvertently ignore something, and the signs of discord between husband and wife begin to appear unconsciously. . It is only after the marriage is in trouble that you find that if you want to work hard, you will have little effect, or even irretrievable, only regret.
Busy and busy, men rarely have time to calm down to reflect, in fact, it is not without time, but most men are unwilling to even disdain to reflect on some problems in marriage and emotions. It seems that doing so is quite psychological. Misunderstanding. Without reflection, you cannot grow, and without reflection, the problems will accumulate. The following questions are the most introspective questions for men in six marriages. I hope that men in marriage can take the time to think about these issues.
Has wives and children not worried about food and clothing?
Many men seem to be working, and they seem to be very busy every day, but have you ever thought about: Is your busyness half the result? Even the problem of food and clothing for wives and children is too much to save? Although the abilities of men are different, if the abilities are really limited, of course, they don’t have to be demanding, but there are not many men with poor abilities. Most of them are capable, but they don’t work hard, they are not ambitious, and they are addicted to games or gambling tables.
Does neglect his wife’s emotional needs?
Materials are just a basic requirement. As a married man, in addition to providing relatively worry-free material conditions for his wife and children, is he too devoted to work or entertainment and neglects his wife’s spiritual needs? For example, go shopping with the wife, take a walk with the wife, do you remember the wife’s birthday or the couple’s wedding anniversary? Will some romantic demands for the wife’s sentiment violently disrupt the blow?
Is it too long to chat with my wife?
Without communication, there would be no harmonious relationship between husband and wife, and there would be no warm and happy marriage. Most women are willing to chat and talk, and most men tend to be silent. Has it been too long since I have had a good chat with my wife? Has it been too long since I have communicated about the big and small things in life? Even just a word, rudely just one person? Is it just to pay attention to socializing and go home late every day so that my wife often keeps alone?
Does inadvertently hurt his wife through his words and deeds?
Most men are careless and often think they are right. They accidentally say something they shouldn’t say and do something they shouldn’t. They don’t realize it, and the wife doesn’t point out because of love. Existence, this requires men to take the initiative to reflect and reflect on a regular basis. Did you accidentally hurt your wife’s heart by an unintentional sentence or an unintentional move? Has his macho behavior wronged his wife?
Are you neglecting to educate your children and honor your parents?
In addition to two couples in marriage, they also have children and parents. A qualified man can’t just be busy with his career, can’t just do good work and neglect the education of the child, the so-called son is not the father. There are even more men who have forgotten to honor their parents because they are busy. They may have the intention, but they will not always take action. It will be too late to regret when “the child wants to be filial and filial.” Have you seriously reflected on how long you haven’t managed your child’s education? Does it matter whether the children’s education is left to their wives or even to their parents? Has it been a long time since I visited my parents or even made a phone call?
Is worthy of his wife’s love loyal to marriage?
Marriage is the marriage of two people. Life is for themselves, not for others, so it is most important to be worthy of one’s heart. On the surface, they are harmonious and never even quarreled. Others seem to be model couples. But in fact, many model couples are just an illusion.
is loyal to marriage, not by concealment and deception, or by saying that the wife does not know her ambiguous or even derailed actions outside, it seems to be at ease. If the man is outside, does it compare to the wind? Do you play confidant games ambiguously with online women? Is it true that the wife’s trust is loyal to marriage?
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